We so often hear about men and women who get into an informal, accidental relation and then get abandoned and don't know what to do.
Here are some ideas.
AGTSP paoho I guess the basic principle is that this is Kali-yuga. We are all alone, but we take some kind of artificial, cheating shelter by political co-operation with others sometimes and feel protected.
When we formally took Sannyasa then the real situation actually hit us. At first I was just staying and working in my little cave in the Berkeley Temple, but I could feel the subtle politics, so we started to travel and stay with different devotees around the Bay Area. This is Kuticak and then Bahudak. The stages of Sannyasa were so natural.
Then even that was not full surrender to Krsna so in ~January 1990 we took off on Parivrajack. We had just enough money to go and no more. It was frightening, but we were pretty convinced that Krsna was there. This was our duty. So we did it and one thing after another worked out and we have been traveling all over the world since then, ~1990, with no money or shelter except from Krsna.
At one point we arrived in New York in the snows of Winter and could stay with Professor Sankar Sastri for a few days but we really had no place to go after that. We did not agree with the way the BI or other Temples were doing things and we refused to compromise our principles. We finally decided that if there was no option we would just go sit behind some hand-ball board in a public park and freeze to death in the snow and let our body be found in the Spring.
Then, we got invitation to come again to Peru and it was not a long-term solution but it was a wholesome thing to do and then we expected that Krsna would arrange another engagement after that, but... the basic principle is that we have to be ready to leave our body if there is no service for us here.
Read the verses about when the Pandavas leave:
So that is the real principle. Unless you are ready to give up your body for Krsna you will always have to make compromises with the Witch and She is delegated with the task of causing your trouble.
As a Sannyasi, yes, we can't get into all the details of this, but a general principle is that a lady or gentlemand only has intimate relations with their husband or wife. If one has intimate relations with someone he is she is his or her husband or wife.
You can think like that. Then the embecile left you to look for some other associate, O.K. She's an embecile, doesn't understand what a great person you are (Ha! Ha!).
And your attachment, lamentation etc. is natural, but what can you do? What can you do when your mother dies?
Well, you can do a lot... your mother is not dead, your "wife" is not dead. You can try to understand what to do for the welfare of all, not just your self, given the current situation.
Don't try to be patient more than enthusiastic. Do something nice for everyone.