AGTSP paoho and bw
We have communication with several initiated and not yet initiated married devotees who have problems following the four principles and chanting 16-rounds.
One problem is that one of the partners can follow, but the other can't. What to do? We took the route of being strict and it seemed to lead to divorce. That was in 1972 and if we knew then what we know now we may have been able to adust things for the satisfaction of our family. Our wife was and I guess still is, a very nice person. She tried, I tried, but especially in 1972 following these four principles was a lot of stress on ordinary family relations. She got remarried after six years which Parasara, Prabhupada, say is Dharmic in Kali yuga if the husband takes Sannyasa, and that is basically what I did.
Of course, it maybe better for the wife to indulge the husbands attachments for some time, but in terms of the formal postion of Diksa guru we have to say that the four principles must be followed and we must chant 16-rounds to be formally connected to Krsna. Again Krsna is a person and he can see your sincerity and He will help in different ways.
We cannot discuss this in great detail because we are in the Sannyasa ashrama, so Grhasthas need to consult with senior Grhasthas and many others and get good advice. Canakhya Pandita says: Victory comes from good advice and good advice comes from many advisors.
What do you think?