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Hare Krisna PAMHO TLGASP Espero tenga un Feliz Janmastami

En la Eco aldea hay dos programas uno a las 7,30 am otro a las 19,00pm, en el primero se le ofrece a Krisna un incienso y una flor.

Ss Jagamohan Das is

ASA - Super. Por favor lea el Kapi Dhvaja y escribanos con el Codigo de Prioridad actual. 😎

Hare Krsna dear Gurumaharaja

Please accept our sincere obeisances

Jaya Srila Prabhupada!

I hope you are well, surrounded by disciples and well-wishers and in good health.

HpS - ASA -- Srila Prabhupada gives one definition of disciple as one who follows the discipline of his teacher.

Hmmm?

Our discipline is based on 16-nice rounds and four principles strictly. This necessitates the wonderful early morning Kirtans, Bhajans etc.

By singing and dancing will I change the progress of the seasons?

No, we learn to integrate with them, to participate with Krsna's reality.

"Hare Krsna, Hare Rama".

Seeing this world as a reflection of the eternal reality for the purpose of waking up, or being here to help others wake up.

Back to work. Back to Goloka.

Well wishers are people who want us to wake up. Want us to be engaged again in our constitutional position.

Krsna is always growing, so people around us can also be always growing

So much to do!

I give you a brief report of my activities as regional representative and administrator of the Bhakti Sastri program.

HpS - We have no news of the Ministry of Education Executive Committee or Minister??!

• Just today LAD shared with me the application for the certification of ISKCON La Paz as Bhakti Vaibhava exam center. We will review it carefully before sending it to Bhakta Rupa Prabhu who is interested in having an official program in the region. LAD has worked hard to achieve this, we hope that Srimad Bhagavatam will soon be consolidated in our countries.
• The Bhakti Sastri program has about 35 test takers plus about 25 more in the coming weeks. Many started but few finished. However, the effort of my teachers has been enormously worth it. I am very grateful. Yugala Kisora ​​dd is doing a very professional job in examination and personal reports.
• I am translating the Bhakti Sastri and Bhakti Vaibhava question bank given to me by Atul Krishna Prabhu. Hard but very rewarding work. For next year's courses, we will be able to have all the material in Spanish.
• LAD and I, with the collaboration of Raman Reti dd and Indira Sakti dd, are working on an educational project that we want to present to you personally at the end of the year. We agree that it is a mature project and we hope to be able to please you.

HpS - We are really dedicated to the idea that the programs are good, must adjust to the environment, but really it is the teacher commitment that is always the driving energy.

We are fine, busy, aware, and greatly missing your personal association. We pray at your feet to see you soon.

Your servant

Gandharva das

HpS - Thank you. The Full Morning Program takes an effort for us to maintain. We are the technicians that make it work, but without the association of the participants 60% of the program's strength is gone.

Thank you.

We should expect that Krsna will send opportunities for us to do valuable, practical service to us. That is the most common sense thing to expect.

Then plans will follow as we get partners, and develop our teams.

My address book got bombed and we are reconstructing it. Please Whatsapp me Tapan misra Das' number.

Also we are developing the ISKCON-ASA educational programs, and hope to have Hispanomerica symposium between Krsna and January 1st:

Subra devi Dasi

Radhika ramana Das

Yadunandana Swami

You and LAD?

Who else?

Education In ISKCON

Hare Krsna dear Gurudeva

Thank you so much for your answer

I believe that an Hispanoamerican Symposium is a great idea. The guests on the list are top quality. Of course LAD and I can contribute our small amount of experience.

What about inviting Param Padam prabhu? I have a good relationship with him and he has so much to say on this topic. But If you want to make it broader, maybe we could ask for Mitravinda dd. and Harinam Gauranga das, regional representatives of Brazil and Colombia-Venezuela respectively. Both can contribute through very different experiences and perspectives. Brazil is a monster (in educational dynamics), while Colombia-Venezuela are fighting for a consolidation (formalization) of their pedagogical programs. What do you think Gurudeva? seems suitable? relevant?

HpS - This is exactly what I was hoping that you would have names of many people. We will make this "Letter Type", " Category A", then it will cycle into the Kapi Dhvaja and we can start building teams, making plans from there.

Nothing can stop the mercy of Nitai-Nimai.

Let me please help you organize this program.

*Thanks for the disciple - well wisher definitions beyond the institutional, social and superficial. Needed to be induced with this kind of solid concepts.

ASA - AgtSP!!!

Your servant

Gandharva das

La Visión de Santa Teresa

Homenaje en su día de desaparición el 15 de octubre del año 1582.

Cuentas de Conciencia 38 – Sevilla 9 de agosto de 1575

En el libro Cuentas de Conciencia de las obras completas de la Santa hay una increíble descripción de la mayor visión que la Santa tuvo. Ella aquí afirma que es su Señor.

2. “Súbitamente me vino un recogimiento con una luz interior tan grande que me parecía estar en otro mundo, y hallose mi espíritu dentro de sí, en una floresta y huerta muy deleitosa, tanto que me hizo recordar de lo que se dice en el Cantar de los Cantares: Veniat dilectus meus in hortum suum – venga Él, mi amado, a Su huerto y coma sus delicadas frutas”.

“Vi allí, en este Eliseo (lugar delicioso donde van las grandes almas), un joven negruzco con una extraña belleza; encima de su cabeza tenía como una guirnalda, que no corona, de gran pedrería, y muchas doncellas que andaban allí con Él, con ramos en las manos, todas en cánticos de alabanzas de Dios. Yo no hacía sino abrir los ojos para no distraerme y no me era posible quitar la atención de ello”.

“Había allí una música de ángeles y canto de pajaritos, de la que el alma gozaba, aunque yo con los oídos físicos no lo escuchaba, más el alma, estaba en aquel deleite. Yo miraba como no había allí otro hombre ninguno”.

3. “Esto duró más de hora y media –que no podía apartar mi vista ni mi atención, y con gran deleite, cosa diferente de otras visiones; y lo que de allí saqué fue más amor a Dios y tenerle más profundamente presente con aquella belleza, no es posible que fuera imaginación”.

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The Vision of Santa Teresa

Tribute on the day of her disappearance on October 15, 1582.

Accounts of Conscience 38 - Seville, August 9, 1575

In the book Accounts of Conscience of the complete works of the Saint there is an incredible description of the greater vision that the Saint had. She here affirms who is her Lord.

2. “Suddenly a recollection came to me with an interior light so great that it seemed to me to be in another world, and my spirit was found within itself, in a very delightful forest and orchard, so much so that it made me remember what is said in the Song of Songs: Veniat dilectus meus in hortum suum - come He, my beloved, to His garden and eat its delicate fruits.

“I saw there, in this Eliseo (delicious place where great souls go), a blackish youth with a strange beauty; On top of his head he had like a garland, which does not crown, of great stones, and many maidens who walked there with him, with bouquets in their hands, all in songs of praise of God. I kept opening my eyes so as not to be distracted and it was not possible to take my attention away from it ”.

“There was a music of angels and song of birds there, which the soul enjoyed, although I did not listen to it with my physical ears, but the soul was in that delight. I looked like there was no other man there ”.

3. “This lasted for more than an hour and a half - that I could not take my eyes off nor my attention, and with great delight, something different from other visions; and what I got from there was more love for God and having him more deeply present with that beauty, it is not possible that it was imagination ”.

HpS - Amazing!!!!

Hare Krishna, Dear gurudeva!!!!!!!!!!!

All glories to Srila Prabhupada.

All glories to you.

Please accept our obeisances.

As of every two weeks:

* Bulletin is now upload on Facebook (English & Spanish), it is also in Google Groups as listed at: http://www.jayarama.us/hello.htm

Hare Krishna!!!

We are trying to balance a sane sadhana (4P, 16 GR, worshipping, reading).

Thanks a lot for your suggestion in the last letter. We agreed. We can start with a new group of kids.

Today we received a phone call from other school. They want a meet... apparently it's a job offer. This is a big school.

We will have the meeting, we will listen to the proposal and then we will decide what to do.

Thanks a lot for this Wonderful bulletin.

EDT (Patrak das & Antuanette )

HpS/TB/BW/UG - Thank you. Just finishing N. B. Hari Das' letter on marriage. Guess the same thing is true for choosing a job: How will this help me chant better rounds! 🙂

Does the name of God appear on the lips of the school leader who is interviewing me.

Maybe better to leave our marriage, job, body and return to Goloka!!! [Forever]?

All these relations in this world only have reality as educational games, no?

"You play the Mommy this time and I'll play the Daddy."

😎

Hare Krishna Beloved Gurudeva,

Please accept our humble obeisances,

All Glories to Srila Prabhupada,

Here we are writing our thoughts about this topic because you had requested feedback from the community when you wrote about divorce.

HpS/ASA - Thank you!!!!! AgtSP!!!..... paoho....

Srila Prabhupada clearly explains that there are four Asramas: bramachari, grihastha, vanaprastha and sannyasi. It should be understood by Asrama, as a refuge for spiritual advancement.

And why do we need a shelter? Because this world is Dukhalayam Asasvatam (Bg 8.15) or Anityam Asukham lokam (Bg 9.33), a temporary place full of misfortunes.

And what is the way out of this ocean of suffering? Develop Krishna Consciousness under the guidance of a bona fide spiritual master. Srila Prabhupada established 16 rounds, 4 principles, Sadhu Sanga and Krishna Katha as a bona fide method to awaken our Krishna Consciousness. Therefore, we must try to put ourselves in the most favorable situation to develop these activities.

In the West, the great majority of Devotees find that refuge in the Grihastha Asrama, the married life.

Sadly, in our movement, we have struggled to help Devotees to be successful in married life but several families within Iskcon have had to go through the painful situation of divorce.

We who write included.

Here are some personal reflections on the subject, which I hope can shed some light on the dynamics of marriage and help Devotees to be successful in family life.

My inspiration to talk about this topic comes from:

1. His Holiness Bhakti Vidyapurna Swami's classes,
2. reading of the Grihastha Vision team's book Heart and Soul Connection,
3. discussions with my Asrama Guru His Grace Srila Virabahu,
4. my marriage counselor Héctor Klurfan;
5. and my personal realizations.

• For the followers of Srila Prabhupada, the real refuge is sixteen good rounds a day. Four regulative principles. Perform service alongside sincere Devotees (Sadhu Sanga) and Krishna Katha (read and discuss about the Science of Krishna presented in Srila Prabhupada's books). Everything they do in life, including choosing a life partner, must be subject to the possibility of doing these activities.
• In the words of Srila Virabahu, it is taking about thirty years for the western devotees to become Krishna Conscious. Therefore the choice of the partner should be based on the possibility of being able to practice Bhakti Yoga as established by Srila Prabhupada in Iskcon, rather than on an external form of whether or not my partner is an initiated devotee.
• His Grace Srila Virabahu says that marriage is three things:
• A NEED: A man needs a woman and a woman needs a man.
• A RESPONSIBILITY: Once the commitment to take care of and accompany each other has been made, this commitment must be maintained over time regardless of the circumstances. Divorce should never be an option to resolve a conflict. (see perspectives on divorce).
• A SACRIFICE: Spouses must put up with each other. The Vedas explain that the purpose of marriage is to develop patience, tolerance and humility, in order to have the proper attitude to service Krishna !!
• Devotees who want to enter married life must have a certain degree of financial stability, that is, a clear source of economic income. The lack of financial stability can make family life hell.
• Although astrology is a very useful tool to determine the compatibility between two people, to be able to commit to marriage, a trustworthy astrologer is not always available. And if I receive astrological counseling, it should always be keeping in mind what Srila Prabhupada said about it, that astrology being such a complex science, in Kali yuga, if seven astrologers say the same about a subject, it may be true. THE ASTROLOGY MUST BE ONE AMONG SEVERAL PARAMETERS TO CHOOSE A SPOUSE, AND NOT THE PRINCIPAL.
• I suggest, to be able to choose an appropriate life partner, to follow four rules:

1.  Choose a person who has a similar Karma. What I mean, a person who has a similar upbringing, the same level of trauma and similar life circumstances. When two people with disparate pasts come together, the member with the greatest emotional damage ends up harming his / her partner, unless he / she undertakes an intense reformatory process, be it psychological therapy or the strict practice of Srila Prabhupada's instructions. 
2. Observe and analyze the person's state of consciousness. We can see this taking into account four factors:
3. How are the dynamics and relationships in their core family of origin. How he/she gets along with his/her parents and siblings. Who works in their family? the father, the mother, both, how is their social life?
4. Where does he/she live and what does he/she do? He/she lives alone, with his/her parents, his/her Asrama is clean and tidy. He/she works a lot, little, is responsible, etc.
5. How he/she eats and what he/she does in his spare time, how he/she recreates. He/she cooks, orders ready-made food, it's healthy, it's junk. He likes art, studying, sports, etc.
6. Who are his/her friends? What do they do, what values ​​predominate in that association.
7. Reflect on the ten most important principles for one in relation to family, health care, work, spiritual life, sex life, social life, where you would like to live, children, etc. These principles must match 70% with those of your potential partner, to have an acceptable marriage. Principles can often be shared even though they take different forms. Example: it is very important for both of you to take care of your health, but she emphasizes healthy eating and he physical activity and training. Now if she wants to have three children and he does not want to have children, or she wants to live in the country and he in the city, etc, it is difficult for that marriage to work.
8. Defer sexual life until you have made the commitment to join in marriage. Familiarity is the mother of contempt and there is no greater intimacy between two people than sexual life. If this activity is carried out before a solid commitment, it can lead to confusion, inability to carefully observe the previous points and lead to the failure of the couple in the future.

• If when analyzing the state of consciousness of the person, something arises that draws attention or is uncomfortable or is not compatible, it should be COMMUNICATED, CONVERSED and DISCUSSED carefully. If there is no clarity or agreement on a point, it should be seen as a red flag and an immediate cut-off should be considered when such a discrepancy arises. Holding an important difference with the idea that in the future that difference will disappear is a very common mistake and leads to frustration.
• If when analyzing the person's state of consciousness there are agreements and compatibility, one must wait at least one year to have enough time to interact with the partner in different circumstances and observe the aforementioned points. If no red flag appears, you can proceed to formalize the marriage.
• Once married, the married couple should focus their lives on deity worship and preaching Krishna Consciousness. These activities will help to reduce the attention in the members of the couple, thus reducing friction. This will also help in times of difficulty. Remember what happened to the Yadu Dynasty. 
• The spouses should read and study the Pastime of Kardama Muni and Devahuti, in the third canto of Srimad Bhagavatam, keeping in mind that this is the ideal situation, the role model of married life, but that neither he is Kardama Muni nor she is Devahuti. This helps clarify expectations.
• Spouses must understand the psychology of their partner. A common misconception is that men judge women with the psychology of men and women judge men with the psychology of women. Actually their psychology works differently. Women seek experiences, while men seek goals. For more information I suggest reading the book "Between Heaven and Earth" by Prabhu Mahajan, which explains this topic very well. In short, the correct dynamic of marriage must be: she must feel that he pleases her in all her needs. And he must feel that she admires him. When he pleases and protects her, she naturally admires him. As His Holines Hanumatpresaka Swami states, she always laughs at his jokes and that naturally inspires him.
• It should be understood that the source of happiness is our eternal relationship with Krishna and that the relationships of the body are temporary. Therefore it should not be believed that the spouse will make me happy. The spouse must help me to relate to Krishna so that one can be happy. Expecting something different from your partner is pure illusion, a chimera.
• We must bear in mind that for a relationship to take hold and mature it must take at least seven years. That is why it is frequent and expected that during the first years of the relationship there are tensions and discrepancies.
• In order to deal with the tensions and discrepancies that naturally arise in a relationship, it is essential to have an Asrama Guru, a mature counselor who has been successful in married life. He may be a senior devotee or an experienced therapist. Regular meetings should be held with such a counselor to help spouses reveal their minds and raise their needs, interests, and concerns.
• In the case that the marriage is Homosexual (this is an issue that is not discussed openly in iskcon, but I think it should be considered in order to give shelter to people), it must be identified in the couple, the person who manifests the masculine principle and who the feminine, understanding that polarity must exist, since this polarity exists in the beginning of creation. It can happen that the polarization is dynamic and varies with time. But this issue must be discussed. In relation to sexual life, it must be understood that it is intended to beget children. Therefore, in a homosexual relationship, the gross sexual life must be restricted and the sexual life limited to a subtle and romantic experience. Otherwise this will generate suffering in the future. The principle should be to promote responsibility, commitment and family, regardless of what external form this takes.

I hope these reflections are useful to the community of devotees. I sincerely apologize if anyone has been offended by these lines.

Eternally grateful to be part of the great iskcon family.

At your service,

Nikunja Bihari das.

HpS - Wow! Is vast study. We recognize many points that are universal suggestions. I think the central point is the attitude of trying to help someone else in this specific social relationship become more Krsna conscious.

Then it is easier to include all the other points.

Thank you.

Hare Krishna Amado Gurudeva,

 Por favor acepte nuestras humildes reverencias,

Todas las glorias sean para Srila Prabhupada,

 Aquí escribimos nuestros pensamientos sobre estos temas porque solicitó comentarios de la comunidad cuando escribió sobre el divorcio.

Srila Prabhupada explica claramente que existen cuatro asramas, bramachari, grihastha, vanapratha y sannyasi. Se debe entender por Asrama, cómo un refugio para el avance espiritual.

Y por qué necesitamos un refugio? Porque éste mundo es Dukhalayam Asasvatam (Bg 8.15) o Anityam Asukham lokam (Bg 9.33), un lugar temporal lleno de desdichas.

Y cuál es la manera de salir de éste océano de sufrimiento? Desarrollar Conciencia de Krisna, bajo la guía de un maestro espiritual fidedigno. Srila Prabhupada estableció 16 rondas, 4 principios, Sadhu Sanga y Krishna Katha cómo método fidedigno para despertar nuestra Conciencia de Krishna. Por lo tanto, debemos procurar ponernos en la situación más propicia para desarrollar éstas actividades.

En occidente la gran mayoría de los Devotos encuentran ése refugio en el grihastha Asrama, la vida de casado.

Lamentablemente, en nuestro movimiento, hemos tenido dificultades para ayudar a los Devotos a ser exitosos en la vida de casado y varias familias dentro de iskcon han tenido que atravesar la dolorosa situación de un divorcio. Quien escribe incluido.

A continuación algunas reflexiones personales acerca de la temática, que espero puedan dar un poco de claridad acerca de la dinámica del matrimonio y ayudar a los Devotos a ser exitosos en la vida familiar. Mi inspiración para hablar de éste tema viene de las clases de Su Santidad Bhakti Vidyapurna Swami, lectura del libro Heart and Soul Connection del Grihastha Vision team, discusiones con mi Asrama Guru Su Gracia Srila Virabahu, mi consejero matrimonial Héctor Klurfan; y mis realizaciones personales.

• Para los seguidores de Srila Prabhupada, el verdadero refugio es, dieciséis buenas rondas por día. Cuatro principios regulativos. Realizar servicio junto a Devotos sinceros (Sadhu Sanga) y Krishna Katha (leer y discutir acerca de la Ciencia de Krisna presentada en los libros de Srila Prabhupada). Todo lo que este haga en la vida, inclusive elegir un/una compañero/a de vida, debe estar supeditado a la posibilidad de realizar estas actividades. 
• Según palabras de Srila Virabahu, le está costando aproximadamente treinta años a los devotos de occidente volverse Concientes de Krishna. Por lo tanto la elección de la pareja debe basarse en la posibilidad de poder practicar Bhakti Yoga como lo estableció Srila Prabhupada en iskcon, más que en una forma externa de si mi pareja es o no devota/o iniciada/o.
• Su Gracia Srila Virabahu dice que el matrimonio son tres cosas:
• Una NECESIDAD: Un hombre necesita una mujer y una mujer necesita un hombre.
• Una RESPONSABILIDAD: Una vez asumido el compromiso de cuidarse y acompañarse mutuamente, se debe mantener dicho compromiso en el tiempo independientemente de las circunstancias. El divorcio nunca debe ser una opción para resolver un conflicto. (ver perspectivas acerca del divorcio).
• Un SACRIFICIO: Los cónyuges deben soportarse. Los Vedas explican que la finalidad del matrimonio es desarrollar, paciencia, tolerancia y humildad, para poder tener la actitud adecuada para servir a Krishna!!
• Los Devotos que quieran entrar en la vida de casado deben tener cierto grado de estabilidad financiera, es decir una fuente clara de ingresos económicos. La carencia de una estabilidad económica, puede tornar la vida familiar un infierno.
• Si bien la astrología es una herramienta muy útil para determinar la compatibilidad entre dos personas para poder comprometerse en matrimonio, no siempre está disponible un astrólogo fidedigno. Y si recibo consejería astrológica, siempre debe ser teniendo en cuenta lo que dijo Srila Prabhupada al respecto, que al ser la astrología una ciencia tan compleja, en Kali yuga si siete astrólogos dicen lo mismo acerca de un tema, tal vez sea cierto. LA ASTROLOGÍA DEBE SER UNA MAS DE VARIOS PARÁMETROS PARA ELEGIR UN/UNA ESPOSO/A, y NO el PRINCIPAL.
• Sugiero para poder elegir un/una compañero/a de vida apropiado seguir cuatro reglas: 

1.  Elegir a una persona que tenga un Karma similar. A ésto me refiero, una persona que tenga una crianza parecida, mismo nivel de traumas y circunstancias de vida similares. Cuando se juntan dos personas con pasados dispares, el integrante con mayor daño emocional termina dañando a su compañera/o, al menos que éste emprenda un proceso reformatorio intenso, ya sea una terapia psicológica o la práctica estricta de las instrucciones de Srila Prabhupada.
2. Observar y analizar el estado de conciencia de la persona. Ésto lo podemos ver teniendo en cuenta cuatro factores
3. Cómo es la dinámica y las relaciones en su familia núcleo de origen. Cómo se lleva con sus padres y hermanos. Quienes trabajan en su familia, el padre, la madre, ambos, cómo es la vida social de ellos. 
4. Dónde vive y a que se dedica. Vive sólo, con los padres, su Asrama está limpio y ordenado. Trabaja mucho, poco, es responsable, etc.
5. Cómo se alimenta y que hace en su tiempo libre, cómo se recrea. Cocina, pide comida hecha, es saludable, es chatarra. Le gusta el arte, estudiar, el deporte, etc.
6. Quienes son sus amistades. Que hacen, que valores predominan en ésa asociación.
7. Reflexionar acerca de los diez principios más importantes para uno en relación a la familia, el cuidado de la salud, el trabajo, la vida espiritual, la vida sexual, la vida social, el lugar dónde le gustaría vivir, los hijos, etc. Éstos principios deberan coincidir en un 70% con los de su potencial pareja, para tener un matrimonio aceptable. Muchas veces se pueden compartir los principios aunque éstos tomen diferentes formas. Ejemplo: para ambos es muy importante cuidar la salud, pero ella pone énfasis en la alimentación saludable y el en la actividad física y el entrenamiento. Ahora si ella quiere tener tres hijos y él no quiere tener hijos, o ella quiere vivir en el campo y el en la ciudad, etc, es dificil que ese matrimonio funcione.
8. Diferir la vida sexual hasta haber concretado el compromiso de unirse en matrimonio. La familiaridad es la madre del desprecio y no existe mayor intimidad entre dos personas que la vida sexual. Si ésta actividad se realiza antes de un compromiso sólido, puede llevar a confusión, incapacidad de observar detenidamente los puntos anteriores y llevar al fracaso de la pareja en un futuro.

• Si al analizar el estado de conciencia de la persona surge algo que llama la atención o incómoda o no es compatible, se debe COMUNICAR, CONVERSAR y DISCUTIR detenidamente. Si no hay claridad o acuerdo en un punto, debe considerarse como una luz roja y se debe evaluar cortar la relación inmediatamente cuando dicha discrepancia surja. Sostener una diferencia importante con la idea que en el futuro ésa diferencia desaparecerá es un error muy común y lleva a la frustración. 
• Si al analizar el estado de conciencia de la persona hay acuerdos y compatibilidad, se debe esperar mínimo un año para tener tiempo suficiente de interactuar con el/la compañero/a en diferentes circunstancias y observar los puntos antes mencionados. Si no surgiera ninguna luz roja, se puede proceder a formalizar el matrimonio.
• Una vez casados el matrimonio debe centrar su vida en la adoración de la deidad y propagar la Conciencia de Krishna. Dichas actividades ayudarán a disminuir la atención en los integrantes de la pareja, disminuyendo así la fricción. Ésto también ayudará en los momentos de dificultad. Recuerden que sucedió con la dinastía Yadu.
• Los cónyuges deben leer y estudiar el Pasatiempo de Kardama Muni y Devahuti, en el tercer canto del Srimad Bhagavatam, teniendo en cuenta que ésa es la situación ideal, el ejemplo a seguir de la vida de casado, pero que ni él es Kardama Muni ni ella es Devahuti. Ésto ayuda a clarificar las expectativas.
• Los cónyuges deben entender la psicología de su compañera/o. Un error común es que los hombres juzgan a las mujeres con la psicología de los hombres y las mujeres juzgan a los hombres con la psicología de las mujeres. En realidad su psicología funciona diferente. Las mujeres buscan experiencias, mientras los hombres buscan metas. Para mayor información sugiero leer el libro “Entre el cielo y la tierra'' de Prabhu Mahajan, que explica muy bien ésta temática. En síntesis la dinámica correcta del matrimonio debe ser: ella debe sentir que él la complace en todas sus necesidades. Y él debe sentir que ella lo admira. Cuándo él la complace y protege, ella naturalmente lo admira. Como afirma Su Santidad Hanumat Presak Swami, ella siempre se ríe de sus bromas.
• Se debe entender que la fuente de la felicidad es nuestra relación eterna con Krisna y que las relaciones del cuerpo son temporales. Por lo tanto no se debe creer que el cónyuge me hará feliz. El cónyuge debe ayudarme a relacionarme con Krisna para uno poder ser feliz. Esperar algo diferente de la pareja es pura ilusión, una quimera.
• Debemos tener en cuenta que para que una relación se afiance y madure deben pasar al menos siete años. Por eso es frecuente y esperable que durante los primeros años de relación haya tensiones y discrepancias.
• Para poder lidiar con las tensiones y discrepancias que naturalmente surgen en una relación de pareja, es fundamental tener un Asrama Guru, un consejero maduro y que haya sido exitoso en la vida matrimonial. Puede ser un devoto mayor o un terapeuta con experiencia en la temática. Se deben tener encuentros periódicos con dicho consejero para ayudar a los cónyuges a revelar su mente y plantear sus necesidades, intereses y preocupaciones.
• En el caso que el matrimonio sea Homosexual (ésto es un tema que no se habla abiertamente en iskcon, pero creo debería considerase para poder dar refugio a las personas), se debe identificar en la pareja quien manifiesta el principio masculino y quién el femenino, entendiendo que la polaridad debe existir ya que esta polaridad existe en el principio de la creación. Puede ocurrir que la polarización sea dinámica y varíe con el tiempo. Pero se debe discutir éste tema. En relación a la vida sexual se debe entender que la misma tiene como objeto engendrar niños. Por lo tanto en una relación homosexual se debe restringir la vida sexual burda y circunscribir la vida sexual a una experiencia sutil y romántica. De lo contrario ésto va a generar sufrimiento en el futuro. El principio debe ser promover la responsabilidad, el compromiso y la familia, independientemente de la forma externa que esto tome.

Espero que estas reflexiones sean de utilidad para la comunidad de devotos. Pido mis sinceras disculpas si alguien se ha sentido ofendido con éstas líneas.

Eternamente agradecido por formar parte de la gran familia de iskcon.

A su servicio,

Nikunja Bihari das.