Hare Krsna Gurumaharaj.
Pamho agtSP
Hope you received the previous mail regarding a possible relationship with XYZ prabhu. Guru Maharaja, I would like to clarify on a point. Your blessing and authorization are very important for me to go ahead with this relationship. I have even told Prabhu that we can go ahead with this relationship ONLY if you, Gurumaharaj, give us your full blessings and permission.
I am waiting for your guidance.
Thank you
your spiritual daughter
ABC Devi Dasi
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Esteemed ABC Devi Dasi, DEF Das et al,
Hare Krsna. This is Gita-jayanti. I guess a good day to fix the basic ground rules for the Battle of Kuruksetra. <img alt="*:) happy" src="https://s.yimg.com/ok/u/assets/img/emoticons/emo1.gif" />
Following what I know of Srila Prabhupada's advice on these matters I would suggest that you write down what you and XYZ Prabhu expect from your relationship, how you will relate (eg. going or not going to the store alone for service to Deities) and fix a time limit for this first phase. For example, Prabhu and myself will spend some time talking about our particular interests and attachments, get good association and perspective by talking together with proper devotees for two months and then we will decide what to do next.
It sounds very nice to me.
As described above we would very enthusiastically approve. Have the authorities approve and even sign a copy of the above agreement and send a copy to us and any others you think might be nice.
Of course, you know, we all know we are dealing with fire and ghee, so having strong clear contracts and association in these matters can lead to a WONDERFUL result.
I would suggest that you personally contact Mother Uttama Devi Dasi form Canada. Do you know her? She is wonderful person. Her and her husband are part of the Grhastha Vision Team and they have wonderful help in these matters.
For example, as I understand there are online questionaires from Christian groups that prospective partners can take and then it gives you very nice analysis of your prospectives as partners.
For example it might tell some one that they have very good and common spiritual values and very good parenting skills but horrible conflict resolution skills.
So, then you need to get some education on how to deal with conflicts eg. involve other family members.
I would suggest you read SB Chapters 21, 22 and 23 of the third canto together. Incredible advice from Srila Prabhupada about Grhastha ashrama.
Finally, we will post this on the Blog with all possible references and indications to you and XYZ Prabhu removed so that we can answer this question in general one time rather than 45-times.
Congratulations Miss ABC Devi Dasi. Maybe we will be able to attend your wedding. <img alt="*:) happy" src="https://s.yimg.com/ok/u/assets/img/emoticons/emo1.gif" />