HARE KRSNA DEAR GURUDEVA!,
PAMHO,AGTSP!
HOW ARE YOU?
I AM WRITTING ABOUT THIS TOPIC FOLLOWING YOUR INSTRUCTION.
SEX BRINGS GREAT PAIN, THAT IS MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE (NOT JUST THEORY), AND YET IS A BIG CHALLENGE
TO GET RID OF IT, SPEACIALLY WHEN ONE IS MARRIED.
I SUPPOSE IT IS ALSO FEAR THAT CUTTING IT OFF ALTOGETHER MAY MEAN DIVORCE , ADULTERY, OR LACK OF PHYSICAL AFECTION (I MEAN HUGS)
FOR SOMETIME I HAVE BEEN CHANTING MY ROUNDS AND THEN WAKE THE DEITIES UP, BUT THEN IT´S TOO LATE AND
I FEEL OFTEN TIRED, SO I HAD ALLREADY SET TO CHANGE THIS HABIT AS A PRIORITY, TO IMPROVE MY SERVICE TO
THEM.
YOU PROPOSE DEITY WORSHIP TO GET FREE FROM ILLITCIT SEX ...SO WHAT ELSE CAN I DO TO IMPROVE?
THANK YOU FOR YOUR PATIENCE AND SUPPORT
ASPIRING TO YOUR SERVANT SANANDA DD
HpS - ASA -- Of course, we can only discuss these things as B'caris and Sannyasis. Get nice Ashrama Gurus, nice Grhasta, lady, devotees to advize you. Prabhupada says that the husband can go our daily to collect funds and then wife can work in the house to arrange nice service for their deities with whatever he brings home, a lot or a little, and make their home a very nice place.
Of course, there are details. For example, the lady may be going out with other ladys for preaching programs with someones father and brother while their husbands are working in the Court etc.
But the basic principle is to focus the routing work of married life on the Deity. When you buy new clothes bring them home, put them in front of your Lord and Lady and say, "We just got some new clothes for Your servants. Are They proper?"
O.K. Hug your Deities.
Help your partner be engaged the same way.
Maybe be Vanaprastha.
Progress can be rapid. Yes, girls fake sex to get love and men fake love to get sex, but after a little education they both figure out how to really engage in Radha-Krsna seva to get Prema.
In Vaikuntha there are husbands and wives, Jiva souls.
O.K. Airplane!! >>>>>
P.S. Read Krsna Enters Dvaraka, SB canto one. Jiva Goswami says hugs are O.K.