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About Illicit sex letter

8 years, 7 months ago by candra108_mukhi in Special Category A

Hare Krsna Beloved Gurudeva

AGTSP

PAMHO

It is very nice to hear that U are recovering your energy little by little

As I told U I am on internet cause of work most of the time and in my spare time I read or listen to classess.

I read the very good letter that Harsh posted ¡¡¡¡ And I am writing because I have a point of view of a lady 

I was talking with M. Jambavati more frequently now...and she told me that U said to her that she is a Grhastha due to she has to work to support herself and her father so I think I am in the same situation. I personally belive now that Krsna is taking care of me because I want to surrender to Him... 

I guess that this disease is the most difficult to overcome ¡¡ Until the point you realize that the 4 pillars of religion are pretty real they exist for a reason ...The 4 principles are really helpful PRETTY REAL ... I am sad to share that a friend of mine has a sexually transmitted disease (her husband was with many other ladies so....) So the best policy is to follow 4 principles strictly, but what happened when U follow and your partner no?? U get a disease and ??? karma I guess no??

ASA - Uncle Gismo --- Esteemed Candra-mukhi Devi Das et al, Thank you for your perspective on this topic. HpS is too stuffy to discuss such things but we are practical people, scientists. First, as our old High School teacher, Mr. What's His Name used to say they are not "other ladies". She may be a lady, but they are "women or to call things bluntly as Srila Prabhupada does ...". Second, a lady should not associate with a husband who is fallen, associating with other women. She should only associate for religious reasons. Happy life.

So at least in order not to get a disease U restrain to break principles ¡¡¡ 

About this point on Harsh letter ¡¡

9. Many men think they dont themselves dont need sex , but their wife does, so they indulge in it. In my understanding women can be happy in peaceful home,with a respecting and caring husband, and basic mateiral comforts.  If she does not get these then her sex desire might be more. Secondly if she is really (lusty), then tell her, there are no free lunches in this material world (atleast be a Karmi).  The price for having sex is to care of Kid for atelast 20 years.

CMDD:

Most of the comments that I heard is that women are lustier than men ¡¡ yes this may be true but ¡¡¡ deeply we want to feel protected , loved and most importantly we want to please our husbands or partners, (but in a mundane way) BIG MISTAKE ¡¡¡ Now I realized that our aim MUST be to please Krsna.. So in order to try to please our partners we get wrong advice.... from materialistic mentalities and what we obtain?? DISTRESS ¡¡¡ Until we realized or experienced a HIGHER TASTE ¡¡¡ so  Those wrong ladies need association ¡¡¡ from those who made this terrible mistake.. and learned the lesson  but again .. Do they really want to get advice?? They have to suffer again and again as I personally did until as I said U experienced a Higher taste. Sadly as NOI says an intelligent person do not do what is wrong if they hear but many of us have to experience once, twice .... until finally we understand ¡¡¡

So I have realized that yes ladies need to be protected but not only  by their fathers, brothers, husbands.. but also by elder ladies ¡¡ like M Murti Murti, etc... Because ladies feel more comfortable with other ladies ¡¡¡, also following their Gurus instructions and being sincere etc. 

ASA - Yes!   We all need Ashrama Gurus.

9.  Outside  you will see many women (advertisement or workplace) dressed inappropriately. Have compassion on them as they are being misled that way to be happy is to flaunt one self and have wealth.

CMDD: yes .. most women do not dress properly, in order to get jobs they show their breast etc ¡¡¡ they go to discos and bars to pick up men ¡¡ awful..

I guess that we are influenced by stereotypes if u are slim, beautiful u can get a job a good husband so they struggle to try to fit in that stereotype. And we forget to cultivate within ourselves ¡¡¡¡ But here I want to point out that some girls like me or others go to the beach for example to get sunlight not to show off.. we do not want to feel madonna or any other jajaja we just want to feel comfortable and relax from work or problems...also chaste married ladies do so... others like me feel good wearing designers clothes ¡¡ jaja (lust) yes but not to show off to feel good within ourselves.... maybe I am wrong but I am just being sincere... most of men say She forced me to rapped her look the way she dress ummm ¡¡¡ yes sometimes may be true but also I think that is also the actitude u have ¡¡¡, and convey.

ASA - Yes, many good points here. We need comments from Ashrama Gurus. We saw one scientific study where a girl was talking to a man on a video. They showed it to men and asked if she was "flirting" with him, indicating desire for some more sexual relation. The men mostly said, "Yes".
 
When they showed the same video to ladies they said, "No, she is just being friendly!". Amazing, no? A lot to learn about Varna-ashrama-dharma for Krsna!  "Women as a source of inspiration for men are stronger than men."  Bhisma deva's Instructions to Yuddhisthira, SB 1.9. So, girls have to understand that by chastity and modesty they inspire the men in this movement to do wonderful things for Krsna. If a lady is chaste and sincere with a single glance at a devotee she can empower him with super-human devotional energy to spread this Sankirtan movement.
 
 

Thanks GM for this blog ¡¡¡ for listen to us ¡¡¡ please forgive my stupidity

An unintelligent, lusty lady

Candramukhi dd

ASA - UG - HpSwami says thank you and you seem to be losing a few rounds to The Witch, but She has completely smashed many others, so you got some devotees ahead of you and some behind you. Serve them both and give The Witch a Knock-out Blow in round three!