Maharaj, PAMHO AGTSP

Writing to clarify, no death threats were given to my husband. He just doesn’t want to give me a place to stay/for me to take anything from our mutual home or give me the key. We only said such double affairs result in 1-2 deaths. He is twisting this. My father gave him example of my cousin’s husband who committed suicide after the husband of the woman he went after, beat him up. Also my husband’s girlfriend’s husband called me in a lot of anger asking why my husband video calls his wife at night. We wanted to warn my husband that he’s already beaten up his wife’s boyfriends in the past. It’s a situation where you try to warn someone and they call you the threat. He’s accusing us of conspiring with his girlfriend’s husband and of me having an affair with him. Unfortunate. We apologize for this inconvenience to you. We will try to speak more politically correctly in future🙏.

On another note, after your conversation with my husband, we had a very nice interaction over WhatsApp with him. Then I came here and read his letter to you. It really hurt to read he’s still asking for divorce. We have tried to change in every way for this marriage to work, but it’s as if it doesn’t matter what I do, his feelings are rooted elsewhere, perhaps in his own guilt and insecurity. I can’t change his heart, maybe because his guilt won’t allow his heart to change. Can his new girlfriend who has such a bad history, really be so much better? I find it hard to believe. I don’t intend to divorce him. We are trying to pacify him with nice words like you said try to message him at 1am. Trying to chant to get perspective. Let’s see what Krsna wants. Trying to keep insomnia under control so morning rounds not endangered again. Even if I have one message interaction with him, its so toxic and draining that I can’t sleep and I get sick. Why do I feel zapped every interaction? I need to gather more strength.

First he was bothered about being together. After marriage he was bothered about whether he made right choice. Then he bothered me about rent, I moved in with my parents, now he’s bothering me about divorce. Then he will bother about alimony. After he gets everything he wants from me and is still unhappy, i wonder how he will manage to find something to bother me about 🤦🏻‍♀️.

Something my heart asks again and again is how can our desire to uphold shastras loose to people with loose character?

Your aspiring servant,

Yajnaseni DD

ASA - Yuddhisthira's desire to uphold Sastra lost to Duryodhana who had lose character, not loose character.

Is that your question and an illuminating answer?

Mula Nasredim says that one should not engage in an argument with a fool, because people may have a hard time ditinguishing which one of you is the fool.

Try to help him like you would help a tiger who lives in the same forest where you live.

With proper safety.

What did Draupadi think of Duryodhana?

Kunti of Duryodhana?

Yuddhisthira of Duryodhana?