Grhastha Ashrama

1 year, 11 months ago by hps in Personal Sadhana Reports

Hanumat presaka Maharaja,

Please accept my humble obeisances and all glories to Srila Prabhupada.


My husband is not cancelling his ticket to Singapore to go and meet a married woman (his romantic interest).

Maharaj, should I try to prevent him from going? I have tried to bring up reasonable arguments to his parents and him and he agreed to cancel, but no cancellation still.

If he goes I’m pretty sure he will be physically intimate with her and I won’t be able to stay in this relationship, and I’m not sure I’ll be able to follow the 6 years no remarriage rule you describe as well.

How can I protect my dharma?

Today I threw up my hands and chanted in great prayers to the Lord to please protect my honor, help me follow my dharma as ordered by you, my spiritual master 🙏.

Please help us know what is our duty as a Hare Krsna wife in this regard.

Do we have the right to prevent him by other means?

Your aspiring servant,

Bhaktin Caroline


HpS - All glories to Srila A. C. Bhaktivedanta Swami, Sri Sri Gaura Nitai.

I don't really know the situation perfectly nor am an advisor on the level of Lord Caitanya, nor Srila Prabhupada.

Seems to me that you should not engage in any physical violence but entusiastic argument and threats of threats from a chaste wife are not excessive.

You can spend your time praying to Krsna for some really scarey sounding curses.

https://vedabase.io/en/library/sb/7/11/28/

Is Srila Pabhupada's first class advice.

Of course one may not be able to chant 16 rounds a day or follow other instructions for initiated standard.

Then one should work sincerely to do the best they can and Krsna will adjust our life and help us to come to the proper standard as quickly as possible.

He appreciates one who is too attached to follow the standard but is not angry at the standard and wants to advance as soon as possible.

Off to the evening program etc.

Your servants,

HpS ASA!

Good luck with you happy progress in your VAD and Sankirtan.