asa-e; vad, grhasta, divorce
AGTSP!! Paoho & Best Wishes.
We have been trying to give some good advice to one family with marriage issues. We can only see things from our perspective and are sure that this is not the whole picture. (See attached picture of blind men trying to understand an elephant).
It has come to the point where the gentleman feels that he and she have:
- Tried,
- Tried,
- Tried,
- Tried,
- Tried,
- Tried,
and there is no hope for progress in Eka-patni Vrata in the reasonable future.
So, divorce seems to be promoted by his family.
I do not know personally.
They may be quite different than my my current comic impression. Probably are.
My apologies to them.
Our humble observation from Guru parampara and personal experience is:
Divorce us like cutting of your arm. People in India who see value in following the West, should consider that this Western invention has not worked.
When a chaste girl gives herself in marriage with both families as witnesses, it is like she becomes the husband's arm.
Divorce is like trying to cut it off and grow a new one.
The old one suffers unjust pain and the new one is not a replacement.
O.K.
Taking a second wife.
Even the first one agrees, "Yes, he tried... we all tried", then the HUSBAND must still give love to the first one. See that she has Putra dhana, money, cows, jewels, instead of a son.
Keep an eye on her to see that she is being taken care of by her father, brother, ISKCON Temple etc.
And probably they will develop proper affection over the years at a better distance.
(And she and the second wife will gang up on the husband some times).
According to SB canto six the lady should not remarry. She should take shelter of Krsna and figure 1. That my husband has fallen into illusion, or 2. He has taken a second wife and I can look at examples in the SB of how to follow this role.
Prabhupada in the purports to the instructions of Bhisma deva to Yuddhisthira, SB 1.9, suggests Parasara Dharma Sastras for getting happy social life and he suggests that
1st class is Visnu priya and Lord Caitanya.
2nd class is like above, go on with your life and don't get remarried
3rd class, and still progressive, is to get remarried after 6-years.
As we sit here we are in the community of our disciples who got married, had a song, got divorced, and each married a new, excellent, devotee partner. Lady has a had more children, the son of the first marriage seems to be handling everything. They all live in the same community.
... it is probably 99% insane.... but .... this is the Kali--yuga and Lord Caitanya's mercy goes to the most fallen .... IF WE ARE SINCERE.
Our perspective.
Could say other things but everyone involved is pretty cool in our view and can probably figure these details out.
Legally it can be adjusted.
Thank you.
I think if people put there Sankirtan for Guru and Gauranga first these other problems with fall in line easily.
Which of the following ladies were happy in their married life:
- Draupadi,
- Kunti,
- Gandhari,
- Radharani,
- Mandodari,
- Subhadra?
