Dear Maharaj,

PAMHO & AGTSP!

Dear Maharaj, my husband's Siksha guru is advising him to divorce (he and my devotee parents arranged this marriage despite my resistance). My husband speaks to other women (and planning to meet them prevented by Covid). He has been asking for divorce for past year. One Prabhu from Gaudiya Math has expressed marital interest in me. I have been trying to hear and chant as seriously as I possibly can. I have no clarity how to tolerate the situation with my husband honestly. Should I let him go? More specifically, where should I live now? Should I ask my husband to move out, or should I move out?

Your servant,

Yajnaseni DD

HpS - AgtSP. Paoho. We passed through similar marriage chaos. Kali-yuga. We have not been able to have any dialog with your husbands Siksa guru, even though his preceptor instructed him to talk with us.

It is hard to get a good perspective on these problems since it is often second and third hand communication: She said, that he said, that he said... ??? Ooof.

You should take shelter of Krsna. Of course, the Rascal may be specifically arranging all these things just to get your association!

Well, give it to Him!

Husband is only useful as he represents Krsna.

Then look for good advice from many people. Of course, you may have to filter their bad advice from their good advice, but the original relationship with Krsna will allow us to do that.

This is Sastra, Prabhupada and our own direct experience.

If you are forced to give your husband legal divorce then get a clear statement from him and his associates that this was NOT your desire. That you desired to resolve the conflicts and be married, but it was ultimately force from his side that made this happen.

Of course, that has to be the truth.

Srila Prabhupada would be very, very happy with you if you are avoiding divorce.

As much as possible you should live with devotees.

I think you have a nice family. Maybe they are only 70% perfect, but everyone else in the Kali yuga is dealing with 15% perfect.

HpS/ASA

Dear Maharaj,

PAMHO AGTSP!

As per your instruction, I'm trying my level best to maintain my marriage. Only one problem. I cannot sleep before 1/2am each night as my husband plays videogames and is roaming around the house and I just can't sleep. Then he chants his 16 rounds. So I'm never able to wake up rested or early. Is maintaining my marriage this way better than divorce? 🙏

your aspiring servant,

Yajnaseni DD

HpS - Sometimes devotees have been put in jail and there is television playing outside the community 'cage' all day. Loud. They turn it off at night and reduce the intensity of the lights. Then the devotees would chant.

Do the best you can to sleep early. Krsna will make up the difference.

If you keep trying to engage in devotional service as you know you should then gradually, gradually, all the option will clarify and you will see very clearly what you have to do.

"Don't leave, don't deviate", SP

Just stay in your position on the aircraft carrier firing your anti-aircraft gun until you are dead.

Go down shooting.

Then quite naturally, when you need some rest eg. go to very nice flower show etc. you will take it.

"I have done practical austerities, now I need some rest".

I just can't recommend divorce and remarriage.

If partner wants to go that way, who can stop them, but girl should like move near where her father, brother, are and have a VERY, VERY, VERY happy life. *Then die*