Hare Krishna dear Gurudeva

Please accept my humble obeisances

All Glories to Srila Prabhupada

Dear Gurudeva, some time ago, I approached you to request your permission to divorce my husband.

You told me: "This is Kali Yuga, no marriage is 100% good ... But maybe we can make the best use of a bad bargain (bad ganga)". So, to clarify my understanding ... I would like to ask. Gurudeva Is it better to keep a marriage even when we can have failures?

Long time, before thinking about divorce, I talked with several devotees ... I remember that an older devotee (lady) who is divorced and has remarried and divorced told me: 

"Dont get divorce, because in the future maybe you will look in some one else what you think that was better in your last relation, and maybe you will find someone... But many times the second is worst than the first... It is better to keep trying with your husband, he has virtues and defects... But you have them too, No?

You alredy know each other and if you want you can help each other."

So, what does the best use of a bad bargain (bad ganga)?

On the other hand you told me "Divorce does not exist in the Vedic culture ... There may be separation but there will always be a union ..."

Now that I separate from my husband, I think I know why; it seems to me that one acquires the habits of the other person, hobbies, gestures, tastes, friendships and family, so I think that all of this merges ... So there is such a deep and subtle exchange of essence that it is difficult to completely detach from the other person ... isn't it?

HpS - Yes... People have to understand that getting married is like the rain falling. Once it begins to flow you can't put it back.

I heard in a class that you said that when we finish a marriage, those who follow you are only a continuation of the first ... How does that happen?

HpS - ??? I think the question is too subtle for a good translation? In Spanish??

Now, despite all that, I think there are some marriages that do not take place ... So, my question is under what conditions is a Krishna Conscious Divorce acceptable?

Dear Guru Maharaja, please excuse me for distracting you with these details. Thank you very much for your merciful instruction.

Your servant

Kintsukuroi

HpS - Hare Krsna, Kintukuroi!! Very nice to meet you and talk with you! I didn't "divorce". I took Sannyasa and after six years, which is third class but Dharma in Kali-yuga, my wife got remarried, to a nice person it seems.

It is a very specific situation. It is different for different people. You should talk with us and five more nice devotees. Main thing is increasing connection with Krsna. What will do that. Is the husband dead, taking Sannyasa, having big moral falldown, disappeared with no, news? These are reasons the Vedas give a basis for divorce. Other details. What about these things? Waiting for your answer! Please continue with the KDPC!!! Otherwise we cannot handle our mail!!! Thank you!!!!